HOW TO ENRICH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
 

Do not imagine that if you meet a really humble man he will be what most people call "humble" nowadays; he will not be the sort who is always telling you that he is nobody. Probably all you will think about him is that he seemed a cheerful, intelligent chap who took a real interest in what you said to him. If you do dislike him it will be because you feel a little envious of anyone who seems to enjoy life so easily. He will not be thinking about humility; he will not be thinking about himself at all. --C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

To become the kind of humble person C.S. Lewis describes, we must first recognize when we're proud. God says we're proud whenever we go through our day without considering the interests of other people! What is our mind-set on days when we pursue only our own interests? Subconsciously, we are considering ourselves more important than everyone else. God therefore commands us to humble ourselves:

In humility consider others more important than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3-4)

Disobedience to this command is rampant, and many Christians live dismal, self-focused lives as a result. Obedience enriches our relationships and our lives.

I had obeyed this scripture for a few days at a time in the past, but then other things would fill my thoughts and I'd lose sight of it. About ten months ago, God told me that several areas of my life would be out of whack until I made it my practice to count others more important than myself.

Although it's still easy for me to become preoccupied with me, I am now reminded of God's command several times a day because of two helpful exercises. First, in my prayer times, I count my family, my students, and others as more important than myself. Second, whenever my phone rings, I take a moment to count the caller as more important than myself before I answer.

Recently I sat down to read the sports section after work. Timmy, my one-year-old son, appeared at my knees. When I looked at him, I chose to count him as more important than myself. Suddenly I became motivated to get down on the carpet and play with him. We wrestled and laughed together. Marcy put down her magazine and began smiling as she watched us. It was one of the best times Timmy and I have ever had together.

Professors, are you counting your spouse as more important than yourself? Obedience or disobedience to this one command can make or break your marriage. What about your kids? Your co-workers? Your students?

Students, are you counting your parents as more important than yourself? That's what God means when He says, "Honor your father and mother that it might be well with you." What about your friends? Your teachers?

If we diligently obey this command, our relationships will be enriched and God's pleasure will rest on us as never before.
 
   
 

Jamie Lash                     

(assisted by Brent Wallace)


 


 

 

 

 



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